Single Mom: Shared Custody Good For My Son And My Relationship With His Dad
The note below was written recently by a new mother to an online single parent peer support group, and will come as quite a surprise to many fathers denied custody by vengeful ex-partners and the family courts. Luckily this new mom found Single-Parents- on Yahoo Groups, whose members are described as:
…male, female, young, old, separated, divorced, widowed, never married, custodial, non-custodial, joint-custodial, straight, gay, bisexual, many religions, non-religious, biological , grand, foster, ex-step, and adoptive parents.
Her note:
…I want to thank all of you for your input on my last post about shared custody, based on my own thoughts and what you have all shared with me I have decided to agree to the shared custody wishes of my son’s dad. Though there are obviously going to be some stipulations I really do believe that the shared custody will not only be good for my son but also our relationship.
With 71% of Single-Parents-’s 3639 members being heterosexual single mothers, one might expect a new mom to be advised to fight for complete control when discussing child custody, something often suggested by attorneys and promoted on radical feminist and quasi domestic violence forums. Discussions like that occured before the group was assigned to Teri Stoddard, blogger on the worldwide family law reform movement and egalitarian.
Now new members to Single-Parents- are often pleasantly surpised by the interactions on the forum, writing
“I’ve read so many helpful posts already. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one dealing with these things,”
“It’s great to read posts by single dads. You guys have renewed my faith in men,” and
“I got angry. But now I get it. I’m trying to see it from his perspective and I see that helping.”
Makes ya wanna smile, doesn’t it?
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